Ep. #72 – Stop Trying to be Someone You’re Not


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“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”

– Ralph Waldo Emerson

Episode Summary

In this episode you’ll learn about the importance of being the true you which is in alignment with your soul. We’ll go over why so many get frustrated and give up when going against the flow of the spirit, in an effort to be someone they’re not.

This World Wants You to Be Something Other Than Yourself

There are so many forces pulling and tugging at us to go in the direction that benefits them best.  It’s starts when we’re in school and we’re forced to comply with a corporate learning environment which benefits compliance over creativity.

Sadly, it seems our schools are designed by the corporate elite to churn out great employees rather than creative individuals.  If you’re a teacher, this is not a dig at you, as I know, most of you despise this corporate group-think way of doing things. Unfortunately, this isn’t going to change until we demand it changes and even then, the results will be a generation away.  Truth is, because most of us are products of this same environment, we have no idea we need to see it changed.

Be Whatever Feeds Your Soul Not Your Bank Account

Even in the most creative arena we have in society, the arts, we still see society pulling at us and forcing us to comply with the “artistic recipe” in order to provide what will bring in the most money.  Nothing wrong with making money and I do think artists should meet people where they are, while helping them stretch their worldview.

I mentioned a video I saw by a young British guy who mocked the “formula” for a perfect pop song.  Having spent a number of years as a Music Director at a Top 40 radio station (technically, in the radio world, we called it “Hot A/C” which sounds like an oxymoron) I have to admit, this young man has it exactly right. Watch and enjoy:


Don’t Let Someone Else Live Vicariously Through You

The other area where we see a lot of pressure to conform to the expectation of others is through the community which surrounds us.  These may be our family members, loved ones or friends and acquaintances. Each of them dispensing their own “wisdom” based on what they want and value in life.

Yes, it’s good to gain from the wisdom of those we meet in life, but we must evaluate what is being shared and if it’s coming from someone who is where we want to be in life.  I give an example in this episode of a family member who deals with a lot of fear and everytime I suggest doing something in the least bit adventurous, I get back a laundry-list of all the things that could go wrong.  It’s good to weigh all this, but you can’t let that be the strongest factor to consider.

It’s Comes Down to Allowing…

There’s saying from Lao Tsu, the author of the Tao, which says “The snow goose need not bathe to make itself white. Neither need you do anything but be yourself.”

Who are you and who are you trying to “clean yourself up” to be? Just ALLOW yourself to flow where your spirit takes you in life.  This doesn’t mean acting erratically without concern for the outcome, it means, finding your center, your core, the true self within and becoming in alignment with that so you can be that beautiful person inside.

Get the Entire Series

This is part 5 in a series of episodes based on an article written by Marc and Angel Chernoff.  It’s called “30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself.”  If you want to make sure you don’t miss any of the 30 episodes, subscribe to the podcast through iTunes or Stitcher Radio. I’m also including a link to a page I put together with all 30 things, as well as the audio from the podcast.

30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself

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A formerly frustrated entrepreneur who has learned how to go from dreamer to doer to done. I help you discover your purpose, explore your psyche, maximise your productivity, and grow your platform so you can bring your unique gift to the world and live the life you deserve.